My dad is a real man... and he has influenced my idea of a real man... and my opinions of real men and what they should and shouldn’t do.
For starters, my dad was a loser, at 24; he was an O-level drop out, with no future except as a taxi driver.
He got a second chance..... Just one shot..... And he took it. The man picked himself up and never looked back, somewhere between him and God, his life was sorted out, and he has worked hard every day ever since that moment. He has never given up on himself or on others he has always been the best he can possibly be.
So real men don’t give up.
Second. My dad loves his wife to bits! the woman gets breakfast in bed on an average of 3 times a week... we can actually smell the coffee and toast as he goes by.... and he stops by our room to say good morning, and then goes on... with the sacred mug of coffee and plate of toast, with lots of marmalade, just the way mum loves it.
On occasion, he has been known to say; that God is his number one, His wife is his number 2 and then his family (including his wife) is number three.... Yup... in his top 3 she features twice.
Now Im sure that 28 years and 4 children later, their marriage is not what it was on day one... and I know it’s not perfect. But I also know that he has stuck by her no matter what, that he has loved her, as Christ loved (and loves) his church.
So real men are faithful.
Growing up, was awesome, we always got the best of everything no matter the situation or circumstance and we always got it right, we were taught charity without being deprived, taught empathy without being mistreated, taught how to love reading and writing without coaching and taught discipline without being beaten too much hehe, but most importantly, we were taught to always keep our promises.
I can’t remember my dad ever breaking a promise... if it couldn’t work out, he let us know way ahead of time, that it wasn’t going to work out and why.... and then he showed us his strategy (long term or short) for making it work.... and eventually, it worked.
Real men keep their promises however big or small.
My dad works hard.... even now, when he is in a position where he doesn’t have to work so hard, he wakes up at 4am every morning and is hard at work! He however is usually home by 6pm and can be found watching the news with his "my wife" lol. There’s no two ways about this one...and all real men do this.
Real men work hard.
My dad is selfless... all this working hard I jut talked about, it isn’t for him, he puts the community before himself, he puts the world before himself, and he puts his family before himself.
From when we were children, until today, when we go for a party where my dad is VIP and we aren’t, He calls us to go and get food while he is getting food, and he doesn’t eat until he knows we have food. The only thing my dad doesn’t offer to share is cashew nuts and chocolate.... that one you fight hehe.
Real men put people they care about before themselves.
I am well over 20 now, and I’ve never heard my parents argue, I’ve never seen my mum with a swollen face. And I am certain that my father has ever been violent whether with my mum or us....
Real men are not violent.
Real men are not made insecure by the achievements of women, they do not feel superior to women in an unhealthy way, and they applaud all achievements. Real men believe in gender equality and treat women as equals.
I guess it is important that I mention at this point that my father is a Christian and his whole life is lived as a son of God. He always says the bible has given us principles for everything. And he has based his life on these principles.
Real men know God... and not in that distant far away kind of way but in the personal relationship kinda way.
Real men are everyday heroes, the ones who are always there to support you. The ones who correct you when you are wrong, the ones who love you even when you really suck. The ones who are not afraid or ashamed to apologize when they do something wrong.
That is my idea of a real man. So when my friends say im dating my father... I beam with pride... coz I know im on the right track.
Real men come in all shapes, tribes, personalities, colors etc. and there’s no limit.... of course the person I end up with wont be my father, and I don’t expect breakfast in bed every day.... different strokes for different folk right? It’s their values, their intrinsic beliefs... that’s what makes real men, not these other variables people look at.
And that’s what I believe... A man who isn’t afraid to love, who isn’t afraid to learn, (or teach for that matter) a man who helps others to achieve fulfillment. A man who doesn’t fear God but is his friend.
A man who is his spouse's bet friend, that’s a real man.
And I don’t know what you believe but that’s what we think, here at 27 sunshine Avenue.
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